May I please be me? Please?

I started blogging years ago as a means to shed a mask and be real. I needed to let my story out, I needed to vent, I needed people to understand and I needed to stop committing Facebook fraud by only showing the good stuff.  I’m guilty of saying only what I think will not be attacked because I am a people pleaser. Oh dear, I just admitted it…I am a people pleaser and often it is the thing that causes me the worst heartache.

I haven’t posted a blog in a while, but I have many unpublished drafts. I write as a means to get it out, but sometimes I’m afraid to be real. I am afraid to admit my feelings to myself more than I am afraid to admit them to the world. Before my injury, I really thought everyone was genuine and sought to bring good into the world. After my brain injury I saw the world entirely differently. My brain functions in a different way than before, and people I trusted treated me differently. Twelve years later this continues to confuse me. I can’t recall how I used to respond. I only know how I feel now. Mostly, I’m scared. I am scared of saying or doing the wrong thing that may cause displeasure or even worse, cause people to turn their backs on me. My filters are limited, and my tongue is too quick. I feel like silence is safer, but it leaves me lonely and isolated. My need to please has limited my ability to live more fully.

I feel things deeply. This place I used to view through a glass half full seems half empty. It looks more like a berry bowl with hundreds of holes leaking water. I want to be involved in my church, but there seems to be no place for me in areas where I am most passionate. Our current climate makes me crazy. I want to be involved in my local politics and improve my town, but my skin is not thick enough. I struggle with the deep convictions I feel and meeting closed doors in so many places. Sometimes I feel like the berry bowl, just draining water, except there is no fruit left in the bowl when the water is gone. Relationships that I trusted have gone and left me even more skeptical of everyone.

More than anything, I wonder what to do now? With one child in college, it feels like it is time to make some changes. I want to know how YOU face change? How do you keep from committing Facebook fraud? How do you accept seasons that take people out of your life? I have been told to let things roll off my back, but that is not me. God did not create me that way. He created a feeler and a thinker, but golly sometimes it hurts.

So there it is, in black, white and purple. I put it all, well partially, out there. This is my attempt to stop being the people pleaser. This is me, feeling lonely, broken and without a lot of purpose. I sincerely welcome thoughts you would share with me about times like these that you have experienced. You may comment publicly, message me through Facebook or email me on my blog, gcembracingchange@gmail.com.

The irony of this blog, I’m not embracing change so well.

Copyright © Gatewood Campbell, July 2017

 

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2 thoughts on “May I please be me? Please?

  1. Jerri Haigler says:

    Gatewood, I started to personal message and then I thought, “so what do I need to hide?” I don’t have many answers but I wanted to affirm you! From your FB posts, I know that you have a huge heart and that you love your family dearly. Your postings related to John and Linda have kept us informed and praying. And that’s not a little thing – it takes time and effort and the gift of writing to share needs in time of crisis and following crisis. God gifted you that way. Regarding being you and people allowing you to be you – I have felt a nudging in the last few years that God wants us to accept each other and love each other for who we are at that point in time. We each have gifts and we each have areas for improvement – but God wants us to love what’s different and unique about others, and above all else not to judge. You are beautifully and wonderfully made! Love you for who you are; unite with those who love you for who you are; and pray for those who don’t have eyes to see who you are! ❤️❤️❤️

  2. Gatewood I have always appreciated your honesty and vulnerability as you’ve journeyed your epilepsy with all of us. I can relate to being a people pleaser – it is a tough place to be. At times I love w regret for not always following my heart. That’s when I turn to my faith and seek God’s help to try again the next time. You are remarkable with all the obstacles that have been in front of you. To me you are a super hero. You face adversity with strength and determination. I found that I put so much pressure on myself to be what people expected me to be and it always leaves me empty. You keep going with sharing your journey. May it bring you strength and encouragement as you are helping all of us too to step out and be ourselves. It’s who we are and who God has created is to be.

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